#206: 14 Ways to Talk about Mixed Feelings in English

May 19, 2021 | Advanced Vocabulary

Adriana and I agree — feelings are messy. Complicated. And sometimes, not easy to talk about.

In February 2021, I shared a lesson on How to Describe Your Feelings in English with 23 Idioms & Collocations. In the comments on YouTube, Adriana said:

I loved this lesson, I’ve learned many new vocabulary but I would like to know how to express that feeling when you don’t know how you feel… Hope you can understand what I’m trying to say.”

I get it. 100%.

Sometimes we just don’t know.

We can’t name it. Or it’s too many mixed into one.

In this lesson, you’ll learn how to best talk about complicated, mixed feelings in English.

Plus, what to say to a friend or loved one who is struggling to identify her feelings so you can help her along the way.

14 Ways to Talk about Mixed Feelings in English


I recommend watching the video to get a full description of the collocations and idioms below and examples of how to use them properly in conversation.

When You Don’t Know How You Feel

1. I can’t quite pin down how I feel about… (A common alternative: I can’t put my finger on how I feel about…)

2. I’m struggling to figure out how I feeling about…

3. I don’t have the foggiest idea how I feel about…

4. It’s beyond me.

5. I can’t make out how I feel about…


When Your Feelings Are Mixed

1. I have mixed feelings about…

2. I’m all over the place.

3. I’m on the fence about…

4. I’m torn between


Starting Engaging Conversations With Others Who Have Mixed Feelings

1. Let’s walk through it. (Alternatively, let’s walk through what happened.)

2. Tell me more about your thoughts.

3. Let’s talk about/explore the pros and cons.

4. What’s causing you to feel conflicted?

5. What feels right to you about…? What doesn’t feel right to you about…?

You know what’s next. It’s time to practice!

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know my top recommendations for learning and remembering new vocabulary. They definitely include real practice and that means creating your own example sentences.

For today, I want you to:

  1. Identify your favorite new idioms or phrase from today’s lesson.
  2. Think of a real-life situation when it might be appropriate to use it.
  3. Try using the new vocabulary in a sentence and share it with me in the comments below.

Have a fantastic Confident English Wednesday!

~ Annemarie

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