Avoid Using ‘Very’ to Sound More Powerful [+ FREE Vocabulary Guide]
Want to express yourself more easily in English and be more interesting in conversations? I know you do. And you’re going to learn how with one simple strategy: avoid using ‘very’ in English.
Wait. Why should you avoid using very? Why is the word very bad?
You probably learned to use it in a grammar book. You hear it in conversations and on TV a lot. So what’s wrong with it?
You’re right, we do use words like very, really, and so to add emphasis, but here’s the problem: We overuse those words.
When we use them too much, they lose their meaning, their power, they become kind of boring, lazy words.
When you begin to avoid using very in English, you become more creative and powerful in your language.
You’re able to adapt to conversations effortlessly (effortlessly is a great alternative to very easily).
So now that you know why you should avoid using very, let’s look more closely at how and which words to use instead.
How to Avoid Using Very in English & Which Words to Use Instead
Let’s start by comparing two sentences.
Which sentence do you think sounds better:
Yesterday I did a really hard workout at the gym and afterwards I felt very tired and very thirsty
vs.
Yesterday I did a grueling workout at the gym; afterward, I felt drained and parched.
Here’s another example to consider…
She felt very happy about the promotion and was really excited to tell her family about it.
vs.
She felt overjoyed about the promotion and was eager to tell her family about it.
In these two examples, which question sounds more interesting and powerful?
Yes! Definitely the 2nd sentence.
But why?
When you avoid using very in English, your language is more powerful.
Grueling, drained, parched, and overjoyed give us a clearer, more interesting picture in our minds.
There are extra layers of meaning and this makes the sentence more exciting.
So here are some ways to avoid using very and what to use instead:
- Very hard → Grueling (punishing, torturous, demanding)
- Very tired → Drained (zero energy)
- Very thirsty → Parched
- Very happy → Overjoyed
- Very excited → Eager
Let’s look at more examples of how to avoid using very.
Let’s say you had a very bad day at work. Ok. Cool. But can you think of another word to use instead of very?
What about horrible. Horrendous. Depressing. Maybe even grueling.
For example, if you’re an account in the United States, tax season is probably grueling and horrendous for you because you’re working morning, noon, and night every single day of the week with no break for 4 months.
That’s not just bad. It’s not very bad. It’s horrendous. ( = extremely unpleasant, horrifying, or terrible.)
Here’s a question for you:
Do you get annoyed when your neighbors play really loud music?
Let’s replace that with deafening music (Deafening = so loud as to make it impossible to hear anything else).
When you’re talking about the weather, try this.
Instead of saying:
- It’s very cold outside.
- Or it very hot today.
Try:
- Very hot → Sweltering or boiling hot
- Very cold → Frigid or freezing
Tell me, what’s the winter like where you live? Is it cold or frigid? You can share with me in the comments below.
And finally, how do you feel speaking English?
Very nervous?
How about apprehensive (anxious or fearful that something bad or unpleasant will happen)?
Or uneasy (feeling anxiety; troubled or uncomfortable)?
I feel very certain this lesson will help you advance your English vocabulary.
Or even better… I feel confident that this lesson will help.
And now I want you to practice. Are you ready to add these new words to your English vocabulary so you can use them in daily conversation?
Tell me:
1. What’s the winter like where you live (and don’t use very cold)?
2. How you feel when you get really good news (and don’t use very happy)?
3. What is your favorite word from today’s list and how you could use it in your own example?
And if you want to continue adding powerful vocabulary to your English, then join me next week for part 2 so you can learn how to continue adding new vocabulary to your English easily.
Have a fantastic Confident English Wednesday!
~ Annemarie
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Thanks for the useful lesson about how to use powerful words. Here are my three sentences:
– I was drained after giving birth to my daughter but I was also overjoyed when I hugged and kissed her for the first time.
– Last summer was sweltering – temperatures went up to 42 degrees Celsius.
– I become apprehensive when I have to speak in front of an audience.
Hello. I’m Siamak from Iran and I saw your video in youtube. I like lear english. Your lesson is very good. I wish i can learn english by your video. Thanks for your teaching.
Hi Annemarie,
Thank you for these essential tips in helping us speak with increasing confidence in English.
Here are my answers:
1. Here in the Philippines, Filipinos do not experience winter. We experience the scorching heat of the sun. When I worked in China, the winter was freezing.
2. When I get really good news, I feel overjoyed I could jump with joy.
3. My favorite word from today`s list is grueling. Last week was our deadline for completing and submitting our requirements in school. It was such a grueling experience.
Hi Annemarie,
First of all I want to express my gratitude to you for the best content you share with everyone.I joined to your lessons on last week and was interested in your
teaching strategy/technique.
Here are my answers:
1. Usually, In my country (Ukraine, Kyiv) the winter is freezing. But last winter was warm and snowless.
2. When I get really good news I fell thrilling.
3. My favorite word from today`s list is parched. Yesterday I had online workout for press(abs) and at the end of class I was parched.
Great work, Galyna! I’m glad you’ve found some new words to use.
One note on number two: I recommend reviewing the difference between thrilled and thrilling. I’ve got a lesson on -ed and -ing endings. After you review, how would you change your sentence?
https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/excited-or-exciting-confusing-adjectives/
Hi, Annemarie!
Thank you! After your comments I fell more motivated!
I understood difference between ed and ing endings . The correct version for 2nd sentence is : When I get really good news I fell thrilled. I used ed ending because of my fillings.
I must not elaborate to my friend why I can’t be around when deafening music is playing. I get grueling headache and I feel parched. Most of the time I get apprehensive around Hard Rock Band instruments because I am certain that my grueling migraine will drain me out next day. I have confident in my self that I will be over joyed when around but it will be painful for me next day. It is very fascinating to see how musician are sweltering in their sweat, when they step out for a break or smoke in the fridged air… Read more »
Examples (very interesting) 1.I think that it’s facinating to visit a new country when you can communicate with it’s people. 2. My daughter learned how can she spend her time in these days. It’s facinating that she made many handicrafts at home. 3. The facinating aspect of staying at home, is being together as a family. Examples (outstanding) 1. Lessons I’ve learnt in your website are outstanding. 2. The way that can satisfies you about your life is to be outstanding in your job. 3. Her outstanding driving made she relaxed. Examples (awful) 1. It seemed awful to him when… Read more »
1. Lastly, in Brazil’s Southeast winters have been freezing.
2. Whenever I get good news I fell eager in such a way that I feel like dancing.
3. Because I used to work as an accountant, my favorite work is horrible, horrendous, depressing and grueling which makes me think about the spent time during the tax season and how I used to fell apprehensive with the deadline of the tax return.
HI Annemarie,
I will answer your questions as follows:
1.The winter here in Greece is a bit freezing , is more a mediterannean temperature.
2.I feel overjoyed
3.Drained, After 1 day of hard work i feel drained.
Can I expect a list of words from you in the upcoming write up?
Hi Annemarie ,
Many thanks for sharing your helpful lesson with us.
Here’s my thought:
1.) Since there’s no winter in Philippines, I will use SWELTERING instead to describe our weather here.
2.) I felt OVERJOYED when my manager announced that I’m one of the top 5 agents in the list.
3.) My favorite word in today’s list is : GRUELING
“It’s a grueling month for us at work because our team was chosen by Australian client to pilot the new process with new tool.”
I felt overjoyed about the videos and was eager to tell my friends about it
I’m thrilled I learned so many new words in the lesson.
I’m glad to hear that, Safaa!
🙌
1. I live in the South of Germany and each winter there is different from the others. Sometimes is snowing a lot and sometimes there is no snow no frigid but it has 20 degrees plus. And then it’s freezing cold again.
2. I am overjoyed about my bicycle.
3. I like the word overjoyed and so I can remember well.
I’m so glad you’ve found a new word that you like, Rosi. 🙂
1. What’s the winter like where you live (and don’t use very cold)? I live in Chile, in this moment is spring. The weather these days have been frigide in the mornings and then the afternoons are some boiling hot. By the way, what are the options for saying that the weather is no so cold neither hot? (Thanks) 2. How you feel when you get really good news (and don’t use very happy)? When I get good news, I feel overjoyed!!! 3. What is your favorite word from today’s list and how you could use it in your own… Read more »
I live in Ukraine. The winter there is freezing
When I got really good news I feel overjoyed
My favorite words from this lesson are confident, grueling and eager
I more confident now when I speak English
It was grueling to win last game
Our dog always eagers when we come home
Hi Myla, great job! I’m thrilled you learned so many new words in the lesson.
One note: Eager is not a very, which means there is a verb missing in this sentence, “Our dog ____ always eager when we come home.” –> What do you think it is?
1. I am living in Atlanta where it has rarely snows but for me it is freezing already
2. Today I am overjoyed to hear that my daughter receive an honor roll this month
3. I love the new word “deafening” most in your powerful word list
Hi Van Ho — I’m so glad you’ve found some great new words to use. And congrats to your daughter! Since you liked the word ‘deafening’ how would you use it in a sentence?
Hi Annemarie, Thank you, I really like your lessons, it seems like you can fell myself , as an apprehensive English learner. I enjoyed today’s lesson a lot, Well explained and much understanding. As I live in Australia, the winter here is cold, sometimes freezing . It would be worse while windy and rain whole day. I love spring, enjoy the beauty of nature and the weather is so lovely. Currently I am studying, it will finish early the next year. I would be overjoyed if I get a job right then. I’m eager to hear from you. Love you.… Read more »
So glad to know this lesson was helpful to you, Jubaida, and you’re learning a lot. You used overjoyed and freezing perfectly. Nicely done.
Dear Annemarie.
I follow and love your lessons and videos.
Considering the three questions you proposed I’d say the winter in São Paulo, Brazil, where I live is sometimes frigid and sometimes cold.
Nowdays Brazilian people aren’t receiving good news so most of them are uneasy and apprehensive. However when I get a good news I feel overjoyed.
About today’s list I chose the word grueling because in recent weeks my job has been grueling.
Best regards.
Eurico
Hi Eurico,
Thanks so much for the comments. And GREAT job using the words frigid, uneasy, apprehensive, and grueling (although I’m sorry to hear work has been grueling). I’m glad to know the lesson was helpful to you.
Hi Ann-Marie, I love your lessons and I really enjoyed this video! When I moved to the condo I live, I wasn’t confident to make a living. At that time, I didn’t have a full-time job, I moved to another city, far from my part-time job and needed to buy a car to commute. I was uneasy to drive on the highway, which was the busiest one in town in Canada and the widest one in the world. A few months later, I was hired by current employer as a full-time cook at a high-end retirement home, so close to… Read more »
Hi Akiko,
I’m thrilled that you enjoyed this lesson so much. 😊
Moving to a new place is definitely a challenge but it sounds like you’ve started to get more comfortable and have found a great job. Congrats!
One quick note: when we use the weird ‘uneasy’ we use it to talk about how we feel, not how we are. So in this sentence, “I was uneasy to drive…” can you think of a different verb to use? “I ______ uneasy driving on the highway…”
Maybe “got”?
A better choice is the verb ‘to be.’ For example: I was uneasy driving…
Oh, I see. Yes, I felt uneasy to drive to work on the busiest highway.
Thank you so much, Annmarie! X